How to Say "You" in Indonesian: Stop Using "Anda"

Your textbook says "Anda". Your app says "Kamu". But if you use these in Jakarta, you might sound like a robot—or rude. Here is the "Kak" Hack.

Watch: Why "Anda" sounds weird

Watch: Why "Anda" sounds weird

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The “Bule” Trap: Why Apps Fail

If you look up “You” in a dictionary, it says Anda. Technically, this is correct. But culturally? It’s extremely formal and distant. It’s used by:

  • Customer service bots
  • Police officers in formal reports
  • Strangers you want to keep at a distance
Warning: If you use “Anda” with a friend, they will think you are angry at them.

The Solution: The Hierarchy of “You”

Word Context Risk Level
Anda Very Formal / Impersonal Sounds Robotic
Kamu Intimate / Downward (to kids) Rude to elders/strangers
Kak / Mas / Mbak The Gold Standard (Polite) Safe for Everyone

The “Kak” Hack

When in doubt, use Kak (short for Kakak = Older Sibling). It is gender-neutral, polite, and friendly. It works for the waiter, the Grab driver, or a new friend.

Asking a name (Bad):

Siapa nama Anda?

Asking a name (Better):

Siapa nama Kakak?

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